Kia's Top 30 of 2006

December 11, 2005...in 21 days a new year will begin. What is this new year to bring??? I’m excited to find out. I know that everything I’ll get out of this upcoming year is already in me. I just have to cultivate it and bring it out. So to ensure that everything inside of me that’s suppose to come out does, I’m going to set obtainable goals for this upcoming year. No...these are not new year’s resolutions. No one ever keeps those, so why would I even set myself up for failure. These are goals for myself. I think they are pretty reasonable, but I guess we will all see around next year this time. So here goes...

Kia’s Top 30 for 2006

For God

1. In addition to my tithes, I will give an offering and a love offering every time I go to church

2. Give Him the first day of every month

3. Begin and end each day spending time with Him

4. Bless and exhort those around me

5. Join a ministry at church and work in it faithfully

6. Write an Easter play

For Others

7. Start A Woman’s Worth program

8. Start a non-profit group for urban youth

9. Write my first book (It helps others get the most out of life)

10. Publish my back to school article (It helps others get the most out of school)

11. Volunteer once a month

12. Mentor someone

13. Plan, implement, and host the youth conference in my hometown (G-Town STAND UP!!!)

14. Completely change someone’s position in life

For Myself

15. Make $2,000 per week

16. Workout 3 days a week...I’m determined to have Janet Jackson’s body

17. Have a syndicated column

18. See a play on Broadway

19. Finish grad school

20. Write a business plan for my clothing boutique

21. Take some courses in counseling

22. Have my house fully decorated and furnished

23. Have a financial advisor (I will never again be in the financial mess that I’m in now.)

24. Read 2 non-school books per month (1 for self-improvement and 1 for entertainment)

25. Hit up the M-I-A (I’m going with or without my girls)

26. Attend a couple of conferences

27. Go to AKA regionals and stock up on ‘nalia...and buy at least one strand of pearls (the old heads in my chapter make me look bad)

28. Go on a shopping spree for me and my son where money ain’t a thang (I will have to have my financial advisor before this.)

29. Become a team mom, room mom, PTA mom or something of the sort

30. Take a vacation with just me and my son

Bonus: Go out and have more fun...my friends say I'm getting old. (Go figure!?!?!)

So there you have. Wish me luck. I'll give you guys an update on the 2nd of every month.

Another Legend Gone

Richard Pryor died. another black legend gone. it seems like we're losing them left and right. but that opens the doors to a whole new generation of black legends, right??? i don't know. i want to say yes. i want to believe it does...but i'm not even sure we [the african american community] create legends anymore. we mass produce commercial carbon copies...and bad commercial carbon copies at that. well, i am determined to do better. i have to...for a shall be a legend, sooner than later.

Nigga Moments (Part 1)

I jacked this off of someone's blog. I just found so much truth and insight in it that I wanted to share it with you guys...I hope you enjoy.

Webster defines the nigga moment as a moment where ignorance overwhelms the mind of an otherwise logical Negro male. Causing him to act in an illogical, self destructive manor… I.E. like a Nigga!

Nigga moments are unpredictable, but they all end up bad. If they had their own category, Nigga Moments would be the 3rd leading killer of black men behind Pork Chops and F.E.M.A. It's a fact!

*First*
First job: Karen's Orange Bowl--A sandwich shop in the mall. I used to hook by boyfriend and his friend up on Sundays.
First screen name: I have absolutely no idea
First funeral: my grandmother's in 4th grade. There was one before then but I didn't know her. She was a distant relative.
First pet: Dendrite, a Doberman my dad got from one of his friends from medical school. I was feeding her a chocolate cake one day and she bit my hand.
First piercing: My ear, then my belly button freshman year of college. Like 10 of us jumped on Marta for the ride to get tattoos and piercings. It was an adventure.
First tattoo: A cross with two angels holding it up. Whenever God gives you a cross to bear, He always sends angels to help you out. I got it the end of senior year.
First credit card: Capital One MasterCardFirst kiss: D'andre Green, 6th grade at General Forest Middle School. (Yes, the same General Forest from Forest Gump. Go figure!!!)
First enemy: I can't remember.

*Last*
Last car ride: Last night...home from church
Last kiss: I plead the fifth. Yes, it has been that long.Last movie watched: Romancing the Bride, an Oxygen movie. It was actually pretty good in a corny kinda way
Last beverage drank: A Sunkist
Last phone call: My baby Cameron. He's the sweetest man in the world.
Last CD played: A CD from church. Bishop Ellis from the Bahamas.
Last website visited: somebody's blogspot

*Now*
Single or taken: Single
Gender: Female
Birthday: 11/24
Sign: Sag
Siblings: A younger sister
Hair color: Black
Eye color: Brown
Shoe size: 10 (I know they're big!!!)
Height: 5'8
Wearing: Jeans and a Dare t-shirt from 5th grade!!! (Yeah, I can still wear some of my clothes from then. So what?!?!?!)
Thinking about: Doing my homework.....

Randomness

I have a million things I could be doing, but I don't want to so I guess I will share my random thoughts with you.

--Coco Brother is about to change the face of hip-hop. I'm so excited. It’s bout time we see something new. I’m all bling, blinged out.

--I hope the Colts win the Super Bowl. Yes, I live in Atlanta. And yes, I have been taught to live and breathe everything Falcons, but the Colts have a black head coach...And I'm all about seeing the first black head coach take the Super Bowl. Sorry Falcons.

--I'm about to BLOW UP!!! One day soon, I'm going to be bigger than life. I don't say this out of arrogance, but out of confidence. I'm confident in my God-given ability and the plan He has for my life.

--This year is ending very quickly. I won't complain. Next year is sure to be 10 times better.

--I don't like going to the club anymore. I spent a lot of time in the club throughout college, and a lot of me not liking to go has to do with it just being old to me. Same party, same people, same music. Let's get creative promoters!!! But then this week I realized I had almost been shot 3 times while at the club. THREE TIMES!!! That's a lot for any one person to say they could have been shot, especially in only 22 years of life. You would think I was some type of gangsta girl for real with those types of statistics. Anyway, God will only give you so much grace, and I don't have too much more "avoid getting shot at the club grace" so I'm through. Sorry chicas. Y'all going to have to do it without your girl.

--God really does listen and answer all of your prayers...if your heart is right. Yes, He does operate on what appears to be CP time, but in the end it all works out for His glory. He's answered so many of my prayers in the past 3 months; I honestly can't even keep up. Just thinking about it gets me super excited and crunk. (Yes, people, God is crunk!!!)

--I can live without sex!!! I didn't think I could do it, but it's been 1 year and 4 months and I'm still going strong. I don't even have any fiendin' breakdowns anymore. Yeah, I do miss waking in the arms of man, and it's one particular guy whose bed I fell in love with (it was such a girl's bed), but overall I'm good. And trust me, if I can do, you can do it to. Because in the words of Coco, "I know what it's like to be addicted to that thang, thang."

--Horniness is a mental thing. Yeah, I know about the hormones and natural biological urges that get you all up and going. But you mind overrides all that. I mean for real, when you think about the booty, you start to want the booty. How often have you wanted the booty without thinking about the booty or thinking about how long it had been since you had the booty? That's why as much as I love Jamie Foxx's new song, "Unpredictable," I shall rebuke it. It gets my mind going and makes me want the booty. Dag-gone-it Jamie Foxx. Dag-gone-it!!! But time the right negro gets his mind right and decides that he’s ready…it’s going to be unpredictable 24/7…because that’s how I do when I’m doing the do.

--I'm country as hell, but you gotta love me.

--Ray J, as much as I hate to admit it, is funny as all get out on One on One. I mean for real, the negro's not going anywhere, so you might as well love him for what he's good at.

--I believe I'm the only AKA in the WORLD who does not own a strand of pearls. I'm embarrassed to even say that. But I just never bought any. I do have real, must I repeat, REAL pearl earrings. Does that redeem me any?

--No matter where you're from or how much you love your hometown, 2+ years in the A will make it your heart. Yeah, you may leave, and maybe you could never see yourself living here, but no one can deny that the ATL is the truth!!! Rich with culture, history, and the hopes of the future. It's the Black Mecca, the Clubbin' Capital, the Home of Southern Hip Hop, and the place where the Black Bourgeois resides...You can find it all down here in the A!!! You know you love it!!! Just admit it!!!

--"The Boys"...They were off the chain. Especially to be youngsters (they had just turned 20!!!). Not only were they cute, but they were really cool people to chill with. Me and my girls changed their perception about Spelman girls (okay, 2 of the 3 of us did. The other one just reaffirmed every stereotypical thing they had ever heard), but we tend to do that with most of the guys we come in contact with. I can't wait to hang out with them again. Thanks David & Buster's...and Stella!!! If you wouldn't have been trying to make sure you still had your groove, we might have missed out!!!

Ok, I could really go on for days, but I'll spare you and finish up this grant proposal that I should have done a week ago. Love you guys and gals. Smooches!!!

I Want a Guy Who...

1) calls me beautiful instead of hot.
2) calls me back when I hang up on him.
3) will stay awake just to watch me sleep.
4) kisses my forehead.
5) wants to show me off to the world when I'm in my sweats.
6) holds my hand in front of his friends.
7) is constantly reminding me of how much he cares about me and how lucky he is to have me.
8) turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

You Know Your Living in 2005 When

1. You accidentally enter your password on the microwave.
2. You haven't played solitaire with real cards in years.
3. You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of 3.
4. You e-mail the person who works at the desk next to you.
5. Your reason for not staying in touch with friends and family is that they don't have e-mail addresses.
6. You pull up in your own driveway and use your cell phone to see if anyone is home to help you carry in the groceries.
7. Every commercial on television has a web site at the bottom of the screen.
8. Leaving the house without your cell phone, which you didn't have the first 20 or 30 (or 60) years of your life, is now a cause for panic, and you turn around to go and get it.
10. You get up in the morning and go on line before getting your coffee.
11. You start tilting your head sideways to smile. : )
12. You're reading this and nodding and laughing.
13. Even worse, you know exactly to whom you are going to forward this message.
14. You are too busy to notice there was no #9 on this list.
15. You actually scrolled back up to check that there wasn't a #9 on this list. AND NOW U R LAUGHING at yourself.

Go on, forward this to your friends ...you know you want to!

Watch

Watch your Thoughts, they become words
Watch your Words, they become actions
Watch your Actions, they become habits
Watch your Habits, they become character
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny